How do I talk to my roommate about houseguests?
June 19, 2014 3:06 PM Subscribe
I'm a mid 30's female living with another mid 30's female. I'm not a big fan of having out of town house guests. But I'm not sure how to broach the subject when my boyfriend occasionally stays at our place. Do I have the right be bring up my irritation?
posted by patientpatient to Human Relations (27 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
This weekend we're about to have our third guest since I moved in in November. I've never been asked if this was OK and I just found out about the person coming on Sunday a few minutes ago. I should also mention she just had a couple staying at our place for four days and one of them stayed an additional four days a mere two weeks ago.
While I know it's probably out of the question to ask that she not have anyone stay, I feel a little too old to be living in a place that acts as a hostel for out of towners.
However, I'm worried I don't have much of a case since my boyfriend stays over a night or two every other week or so. I want to stress that I'm really conscientious of how often he stays and for how long and I always let her know he'll be there.
What do I do? I'm at my wits end but am not sure how to bring this up and what I can ask that is fair to both of us.