Should I tell a prospective landlord that I'm pregnant?
June 14, 2014 5:55 PM Subscribe
I'm pregnant, so my husband and I are looking for a larger place to live. We found a great house, where the landlord lives in a separate basement MIL unit in the house. Should I conceal that I'm pregnant (doable depending on what I wear) in case concerns about screaming babies might convince him not to rent to us? Or should I tell him up-front, since living in the same house as a landlord who doesn't want you there could be uncomfortable and stressful?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (27 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
The context: we live in an expensive city where it's been really difficult for us to find a two-bedroom that we can afford. Most 2-beds in our price range are apartments or duplexes. I really want this place, but I'm worried the landlord who lives downstairs wouldn't want to rent to us because he'd be worried about having to listen to a crying baby. So my initial plan was to wear loose-fitting clothing and not mention my pregnancy when we go tour the house and apply.
But I'm also worried about what happens if we do get the house without the landlord being aware of my pregnancy. If the soundproofing isn't great and/or he's the type of person who would be really upset about being woken up by a crying baby, it seems like it could be uncomfortable and stressful to live in the same place, particularly since he's the landlord. So maybe I should just be up-front about the situation to avoid that potential problem?
I know that legally the landlord can't discriminate against prospective tenants based on familial status. (I also know that's a very difficult thing to prove.) What I'm looking for is more pragmatic advice - what would you do in my situation? Hide the pregnancy and risk living with a pissed-off landlord? Or reveal the pregnancy and risk losing the house?