How can I learn to communicate better and be less awkward
June 13, 2014 10:06 PM Subscribe
I am currently 21 years old. I feel like I have been awkward my entire life and I don't know how to fix it. I am willing to go through the painful process of learning though. What can I do? Am I just a weird person?
posted by anon1129 to Human Relations (20 answers total) 13 users marked this as a favorite
Sometimes I wonder why my friends even want to hang out with me. When I hang out with people I usually am very quiet but smiley, I am usually listening or laughing or awkwardly messin with something like my phone. For example, tonight I hung out with my stepsister, cousin and friends we both have and I was very quiet. My cousin asked me why I was so quiet and I said I didn't know, I was just chilling. Every comment I would make would be an awkward one that didn't really make sense. My stepsister on the other hand is so cool and so much fun. I feel like around people I am always actually focused on my own internal thoughts and conflicts, worrying about what I look like to people and I'm not completely in the moment. But even when I try to be, I find that my mind is just blank. Friends have described me as sensitive, very compassionate, nice, sweet, lovely... But I have a hard time seeing why exactly people like to hang around me because I never seem to make them have a good time. I would like to think I am insightful at least or give good advice, but I feel like I have a hard time being like that.
I feel like I have trouble knowing exactly how to get my point across in the best way and sometimes wonder what my point even is that I'm trying to make. A lot of the time my mind is jut blank in social situations, and the thoughts I do have are hard for me to express and not relevant or worth saying.
Sometimes I feel like I have no opinions on things. I feel like I accept almost everyone and see the good in everyone, which sometimes isn't a great thing.
I spend a lot of time in my own little world and sometimes I feel like I am very unrealistic and unaware of things. I feel like I'm a "nice person" but don't really know how to be a good friend to hang out with. I really really wish I was more socially comfortable. I've definitely gotten better over the years but I still feel way more awkward than others.
I'm horrible at small talk but I feel like I'm always up for a deep discussion. I guess my question is, am I just a normal introvert? Has anyone felt this way and can anyone relate? How can I be better at talking to people and more socially aware? Thank you, this has been bothering me