Je Regrette Tout
June 12, 2014 2:51 PM Subscribe
Please help me figure out how to deal with crippling regret over small and large things.
posted by caoimhe to Grab Bag (11 answers total) 19 users marked this as a favorite
I am a regrett-er. I regret everything. These can be big things (career choice, not being social in college, not moving to France when I had the chance, choosing the wrong job) or little things (buying an expensive flight last month, what I ate for dinner two nights ago, the brand of toothpaste I bought, agreeing to go to a party a few nights ago, giving my daughter some formula when I had to be away.) It is really crippling, and getting to the point that I can't make decisions and want to cry every time I've realized I've made a wrong one -- which is nearly every time. Literally, these thoughts can paralyze me for days, and I spend hours wishing I could speak to my previous self and tell them to go in a different direction.
I don't think I'm depressed -- I've got a supportive husband, a kid I adore, financial comfort, and a warm and healthy family. But my fear that I've made wrong decisions is seriously affecting my happiness.
How do you deal with regrets? Any resources that might help me with this? Or what's going on with me that this keeps happening?