What to do with a kid who won't poop?
June 6, 2014 1:27 AM Subscribe
My five-year-old son is anal retentive. Literally
anal retentive. Is this a problem?
posted by zardoz to Health & Fitness (26 answers total)
I finally know what Freud was talking about. (My son's also a very neat and tidy kid who avoids getting dirty most of the time, so maybe Sigmund knew what he was talking about). My son doesn't like to do number two, and simply refrains as long as he can. This can go on from one to three or even four (five?) days. Meanwhile he eats like normal--which is generally a lot--and stays skinny as a stick.
But he won't poop. He'll have a BM coming on, and he will sit down, squirm, push a pillow on his stomach, anything to stop the muscles, which he's figured out will eventually stop. My wife and I have done sweet talk, funny talk, serious talk, and direct commands to "go to the bathroom and do number two! You have to go--just go!" but he refuses most of the time. Short of forcibly taking him to the toilet, which strikes me as a terrible idea, what to do?
Part of me thinks it's a phase like so many other things, and to let him be and he'll eventually get over his aversion. But I don't know how long that could take, and I wonder if this refraining is effecting his GI tract in anyway, with some kind of (permanent) twisting or blockage or the like. And from our end, my wife and I are more than a little annoyed when we are leaving the house for a trip/errand, we know the kid has to poop, but he refuses yet again, only to have an emergency trip to some public bathroom later that day. And the times he needs to eat his meal but won't because traffic is backed up.
Short of giving him prunes everyday, what can we do?