How do I talk to the guy I'm dating about this?
June 5, 2014 7:40 AM Subscribe
We've been dating pretty steadily for 2 months, but now he's suddenly unresponsive and distant. I want to ask him tactfully what's up.
posted by shotinthedark to Society & Culture (36 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
Hi all. So, I've been dating this awesome guy for about 2 months. Things got sort of intense in a short period of time -- we see each other around 3 times a week, including weekends, and he's told me several times he hasn't felt like this about a girl in awhile. We've also met each other's friends, have plans for later this summer, etc. We are only dating each other, but his still has his online profile up.
Out of the blue, he's been kinda weird and distant lately. Usually we text and email nonstop, but he's stopped replying completely (or replies 8 hours later) for the past 5 days and is just in general acting weird. We're hanging out tomorrow due to tickets for a concert we purchased in advance, and I would like to tactfully ask if something's up, because I think emotional honesty is key and I don't want to be kept in the dark if something is going on. However, most articles I've read about this (which are dating bullshit you find via Google search) say to back off, give him his space, and let him reach out. Thoughts on this? I feel like if wanting to talk about things is a problem for him, he's probably not someone I would want to be with long term anyway.