June 3, 2014 12:56 AM Subscribe
After a long period of near-silence, help me learn how to speak again!
posted by parjanya to Health & Fitness (14 answers total) 14 users marked this as a favorite
So for the past...half-decade, due to a variety of reasons (including mental health issues), I was somewhat of a hermit. I barely spoke to anyone except cashiers and the like ('yes', 'thank you', etc). I had no friends, not much contact with family, and no employment. As a result, my voice has become croaky, breathless, and most unpleasantly of all, emotionally flat. I'm overweight and have a thick tongue, and I find that that has given me a bit of a lisp. I mumble and am generally not a great enunciator. I find it hard to put my emotion into my face and my voice when I talk, even if just to myself. I am also one of those people whose thoughts run faster than their mouth does, and in the past I tended to talk too fast and thus very inarticulately.
I've always wanted to have a strong and commanding voice, one that is uniquely and confidently mine. A voice that is calm, mellifluous, self-possessed...something like those old-time radio speakers, but that is true to who I am. So I guess my question is really, how do I develop such a voice? How do I learn to speak again?
At the moment I don't have the money or really the will to go to public speaking classes or speech therapists or the like. I'm hoping to get some advice on how to strengthen and develop my voice at home, by myself. How to develop a voice that is not so dull and lifeless and monotone. I'll never be a gregarious loud-talking person, and I'm not looking to become one either. I suppose that part of the emotional flatness does come from my depression and so on, but I feel like while I've started to improve mentally my voice still reflects that old flatness, and I want to work on my voice specifically.
So in essence: if you have an advice on how to (a) strengthen/develop my voice mechanically and (b) infuse my voice with authentic personality/emotion (or any speech advice in general) I'd be very grateful.