"Do I look fat?" No... (yes!!)
June 2, 2014 9:47 AM Subscribe
My husband sometimes asks me, "Do I look fat?" The answer is yes, but I don't know how to say "yes." Should I tell him the truth?
Here's the context: For several years he has been hitting the gym hard. 5x/week at Crossfit, and currently in training for his third marathon. He went from a skinny, twiggy guy to a mass of muscle. He looks great, feels great, is healthy (we are vegan but do drink lots of beer on the weekends)... but as his muscles have grown, his belly has, too. It's big and looks fatty, even though the rest of him is muscly.
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So when he asks if he looks fat, pointing to his belly, I want to be honest without hurting his feelings. Maybe he's doing something wrong at the gym. Maybe he shouldn't drink that protein powder.
To complicate matters, several years ago he was diagnosed with a treatable form of cancer, and is healthy now. His gym and running routine are tied in with his recovery from the disease. So, bottom line: as long as he is healthy, I'm happy. But when it comes time to body image, the belly is unflattering, unsexy, and I feel like a liar, when I'm the only one who could tell the truth.
What to do?