What, specifically changes as your relationship goes on?
May 29, 2014 6:56 AM Subscribe
OK people who have been in long term relationships (for our purposes 5 or more years, but the more years the better): How did/has your relationship change/d over time?
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I am deeply in love with and devoted to my partner of 2+ years. We laugh a lot, share secrets, have hot sex, everything is great! Of course sometimes it's not great. We can get irritated. We have a bit harder of a time getting to that hot, sexy place than we first did, etc. And when we're really in a conflict, sometimes I feel despairing or overwhelmed. I get really insecure and fear she'll bail. This feels terrible!
So I'm wondering, for you, have intense feelings of insecurity lessened for you over time? Are you more secure? What happens, specifically, to sexual desire after 5 or 10 or 15 years? What gets harder? What gets easier? If you broke up after a long term relationship, were you taken by surprise? Relieved?
To summarize, what is easier, harder and different after many years in one relationship?