May 28, 2014 7:56 PM Subscribe
My wife and I have been invited to a perhaps slightly out of the order "memorial event", and as we've never attended an event with that precise profile in this country, we're wondering if there are some rules and expectations we should be aware of.
posted by VikingSword to Society & Culture (15 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
A neighbor of ours died a few months ago. We were slightly friendly with that particular neighbor, and his sister is organizing a 'memorial event' to which we have been invited - basically it's a gathering at a home, to last 3 hours, and during that time we're all going to be sharing memories and telling stories about the decedent, (this was communicated to us in an email from the sister). We have no idea how many people are going to be in attendance.
The only memorial services we've attended in this country were held shortly after the death of whoever it was that died, and were connected with the funeral.
This is clearly not such a memorial service, as the person has been dead and buried for a few months now. Instead, it's a 'memorial event', is how it's been phrased. Given that we've never attended such an event, there a questions: do we bring anything? condolence flowers (for the sister?)? do we dress to indicate some kind of mourning (black, or black bands or what?)? Sorry to be clueless, but we were not super close to the neighbor who died, however we have communicated with his sister, and we have by mutual agreement adopted his cat (I hope it's not expected that we bring the cat to the event?? wouldnt' that be in bad taste?). So, expectations?