Kink is complicated
May 28, 2014 1:02 PM Subscribe
My partner accepts 90% of my, as Dan Savage puts it, "a fetish-too-far", which is pretty great, considering. We have discussed it at length, she'll never come the last 10%, and I understand that. Two issues, though...
posted by hwyengr to Human Relations (19 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
1) I do feel somewhat in mourning that we'll never get to play out the full fantasy. Ever. And 2) She's convinced that I'm going to leave her within 10 years because of this unscratched itch.
How do I best deal with #1 to avoid #2. I do not want this to break us up, ever. Is this something you can discuss with a therapist without freaking them out?
Other pertinant details, we have a 24/7 D/s relationship going on 6 years, and everything else is pretty great. We hit about 100% right vanilla-side.
Visiting a pro is probably not a great idea because of Issues.