Oblivious live in Boyfriend w/ Bad Home Training - what to do?
May 28, 2014 5:59 AM Subscribe
My bf is back in the us and has been living with me for 3 weeks. At first I made it clear that leaving the toilet seat up, not pushing in chairs, leaving everything plugged in/lights on and not closing closet doors bothered me. Small things to ask for, right? However, I had to mention these things far too often in the beginning until the point where I had to suggest he start looking for a place soon b/c I am used to living by myself and like to be comfortable in my house. He apologized and since then has made a concerted effort. He's gotten better and I've backed off on constantly reminding him as per his suggestion (giving him the chance to self correct), but some of his old habits are kicking back in. I'm trying to be reasonable but looking for advice on how to get him to be more self aware
posted by soooo to Human Relations (86 answers total) 18 users marked this as a favorite
As mentioned, he no longer leaves the toilet seat up and he has washed the floors 2x, washes the dishes, shares cooking, and isn't a complete slob. This morning though I woke up to see the closet door left wide open, the chairs not pushed under at the kitchen table (I have a sign at the table to remind him) and unwrapped/open food in the fridge. I just don't want to be picking up after him like I'm his mother and don't want to be nitpicky or come off as a nag. I already expressed this to him. Is there anything else I can do to get him to be more self aware and get into the habit of doing things the right way, right away so there's no chance of forgetting thus leaving me to fix it?
** I've been really trying not to nag him about every occurrence and he has thanked me for that ... he really did get a lot better so there wasn't much need ... but he seems to be slowly slipping back into his bad habits instead of self correcting. What should I do/say to fix this problem? Tired of feeling upset about his terrible (lack of) properly home training