My husband won't take responsibility for our dog (maybe) getting sick
May 24, 2014 2:09 PM Subscribe
My husband accidentally exposed our dog to raisins, and I just wish he'd take some responsibility for it.
posted by LaurenIpsum to Human Relations (35 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
I have a 6 pound chihuahua and I've been very careful about making sure he isn't exposed to any foods poisonous to dogs, especially since he's so small and it wouldn't take much to hurt him. I heard about a Facebook friend's dog who ate half a granola bar with about 6 raisins in it and ended up hospitalized with kidney troubles.
Generally we do not have raisins in the house, but I bought some recently to put on cereal. Today my husband grabbed a handful to eat, and one fell on the floor, which my dog got. So I called the emergency vet to ask if one raisin could cause a problem, since he's so small. They recommended inducing vomiting with hydrogen peroxide. It didn't work so I called back after a little while, and they told me to bring him in. (The dog is more mine than my husband's, so he is my responsibility.)
Maybe this was all a big overreaction but I didn't want to wait and see if he would get sick. They induced vomiting at the vet, although they told me they didn't actually see the raisin in what came up. So now I just have to watch him for any changes in eating or urination/defecation. I spent 3 hours at the vet and $400. (I have pet insurance which may cover some of it, but I won't know until they process the claim.)
When I got home, I told my husband that we should throw out the raisins. He said, "Well, I like raisins." I said that we'd been doing fine without raisins in the house until I recently bought them so it couldn't be a big deal to do without. I suggested maybe we could keep them around if he ate them hunched over the counter. His reply: "That's what I was doing, but one managed to escape." I said, "Yeah and it cost me $400." He shrugged and walked away.
It just annoyed me that he took no responsibility for today's incident. No "I'm sorry." No offer to help with the bill at all. And disagreeing about not keeping raisins in the house. Like he doesn't even care. Am I right to feel upset or am I the one who's being unreasonable?
There isn't really anything else I can do. There's no right way to say, "You should say you're sorry for what happened," because he'll just get angry and say it was an accident. I just wish he would act like he cared about me and the dog, but it seems like he cares more about his ability to eat raisins. I'm just worried now that something like this is going to happen again. What if he eats raisins again and I'm not around to watch out for the dog? I'm actually shaking now from being so upset (and worrying about the dog's future health), and had to take a Xanax to help calm down.
My husband is generally a nice person, but he has a short fuse and loses his temper easily (it has never verged into verbal abuse or physical violence). So I guess what I'm asking is, am I the one who's being unreasonable, or if not, is there anything else I can do to calm down, and to take care of my dog's future well-being since my husband certainly won't.