What do you wear to dress up if you're androgynous?
May 24, 2014 9:56 AM Subscribe
Looking for something in between gowns and suits.
posted by ohsnapdragon to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion (23 answers total) 36 users marked this as a favorite
My partner doesn't really identify as masculine or feminine. She has an androgynous, casual style that works really well in normal life - think jeans, v-neck t-shirts, button-ups, sneakers or loafers, etc. She describes her style as being "tomboy." However from time to time we need to dress up for an event (weddings, usually) and it's really hard to come up with what to wear. She would be equally uncomfortable looking like a "man" (suit and tie) or a "woman" (dress...of any kind.) She usually defaults to more on the manly side of things because it's slightly better than wearing a dress. Right now our working look is a slim blazer over a button-up and some sort of slacks (that don't match the blazer so as to avoid the suit look.)
Is there anything out there for people like my partner? Blogs, resources, shops, etc. I have definitely seen "butch" style blogs but that's not really right. She's not interested in things like bow-ties, suspenders, and other masculine trappings any more than she is interested in skirts or earrings. And to be clear we are NOT interested in looks that play with mixing both genders (for instance a tux with heels and a sparkly necklace) but rather in styles/looks that leave out gender completely.
Thanks for any recommendations you might have.
*I am taking some shortcuts here in referring to "masculine" and "feminine" and things like that, not because I don't respect all the variations of these two things, but because my question is about trying to find our way out of those conceptual boxes that culture has constructed for us.*