I have been appointed as an executor. Can any of you with this type of experience suggest non-obvious things I should be aware of or do to help make things easier?
My sister was diagnosed with ALS. Although she's in the very early stages and progressing very slowly, she has already secured her core support group and mapped out our duties.
We're a team of three who lean on each other for help, but have been given specific areas of responsibility.
Our brother is in charge of physical, day-to-day tasks (driving, helping with her immediate physical environment, etc). He lives with her for the moment.
Her best friend is in charge of project management (coordination, notification, medical appointments, sending updates to all concerned, etc).
I am in charge of the end (final arrangements, settling debts, dealing with her estate, making sure her will is discharged, etc).
I know that there are certain legal responsibilities that go along with this (I'm in Oregon, if that matters). I've read this post
. I know a lawyer will eventually come into play, but at this point I'm not looking for legal advice so much as help with other, little things that someone who has been in my position wish they had known or had done differently or hadn't even considered.
An example would be, "I wish I had done X three months earlier than I had, it would have saved me weeks of hassle" or "Nobody ever told me that I would need to worry about Y" and so forth.
I've been involved with end-of-life care before, but this is my first time being solely responsible for making sure someone's wishes are carried out, as well as being legally responsible for someone else.
At the end of the day, I'm looking to make things easier on her more than easier on me, but any advice is welcome.