Friend/employee sexually assaulted
May 22, 2014 7:34 AM Subscribe
I am a manager and have an employee in my department who is also a friend. She's been having trouble with marriage for some time now and she's confided that it will be ending. Yesterday, she came in an asked to talk privately outside. She was a mess, saying she had been sexually assaulted by her husband the night before. I comforted at best as I could, offering several options for help on a professional. But at this point, I'm not sure of the best way to proceed, privately or professionally.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (15 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
I've made it clear to higher ups that she's having problems in her private life and needs a bit of understanding professionally. They're all on board with that and we're all agreed she's a valuable employee who definitely gets our support and help. I've laid out a number of options for her to take it easy over the next few days, saying she doesn't have to pick a particular one right now and we'll play it by ear along with making it clear that she can ask for help and encouraging her to seek outside professional help.
As a friend, I've made it clear that I'm here, while reminding her she has other friends to also draw support from.
Is there anything else you think I could or should be doing, be it privately or professionally. I have not told the higher ups specifically that's she was sexually assaulted by her husband, as it doesn't seem to have direct professional bearing, is that a good idea?