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May 20, 2014 7:34 PM Subscribe
Work BFF gets a new job and I don't know how to take it!
posted by brynna to Work & Money (6 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
I've been at my current job for 3 years (I'm a middle school teacher) - when I was hired, another woman and I were the only new employees on a staff of about 15. We clicked immediately and became good friends; I went wedding dress shopping with her, we went on many vacations together, talk all the time, etc. We spend every lunch period together and chat every day before, after, and during school (thanks, gchat!). Her husband and my boyfriend adore each other, so we spend lots of time as couples, too.
She just got a new job, which is an opportunity she really desired. I'm happy for her on the one hand, but am feeling bittersweet. We have extremely high turnover at my school, and I'm now the senior employee (I've been working at the school longer than anyone else on staff, including administrators). My school is a bit of a training ground for young people who then go on to "bigger, better" careers in policy, grad school, etc.
My question is two-fold:
1) How do I keep myself from feeling left behind professionally? I've had other opportunities, but I really enjoy teaching. However, I feel stagnant in this position and it sucks to watch all of my coworkers "bypass" me, professionally.
2) How do I make new friends at work when I've been there longer than anyone? If I were new, it seems like this wouldn't be an issue because I could introduce myself. I'm not sure how to spend my lonely lunches now.
Hopefully those two things aren't too disconnected for this question to make sense. Feel free to respond to one or both. Curious how other people have dealt with similar situations.