Okcupid and unemployment
May 19, 2014 11:46 AM Subscribe
How are you supposed to fill out your profile and the "my summery" section when you don't have a job?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (16 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
How are you supposed to fill out your profile and the "my summery" section when you don't have a job, haven't for years, and don't have a occupation from which you can say you're unemployed or laid off? And you're not new in town, aren't going back to school and have no future prospects to refer to?
I want to fill out a profile but don't know anything that I can say about myself that it's ok to say on there. I don't have any hobbies I can say much about. I'm not a writer or an artist or a musician. I don't have even one friend and rarely leave the house so I can't say I have a "great group of friends" or that "I'm close to my family". I would really like to fill out a profile because I want desperately to talk to someone even if it's not to date people. I would just like to meet someone in real life. I do have severe mental and physical health issues but I feel like it's 100% not ok to refer to that on there. I could refer to it vaguely maybe but I'd rather not because that makes it seem like I am disrespecting such issues by only referring to them obliquely. Also, I think there should be some trust before I tell perfect strangers such things. I would be ok with it if I saw other people on there refer to it but I don't. I just see people post pics of themselves in front of world monuments and at fun social events living exciting privileged lives with lots of social references all over their profile. Do I actually have to lie in the "what I do on Friday nights" section and make reference to supposed friends? I would like to meet someone like me but I don't know how when I can't write anything on my profile. I would rather people know something about me before the messaging/chatting stage so that I don't have to watch over and over how it dawns on them that I am unemployed/have no friends/probably never leave my house because that's embarrassing to go through, and I already experience that in real life.