Coping with being rejected from a top school
May 15, 2014 3:57 PM Subscribe
My transfer application to a top school was recently rejected, and it was the last undergraduate application that I could send in. Would like some advice on coping with it.
posted by suburbs to Health & Fitness (26 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
My reasons for transferring were: Stanford's department for my major would be vastly better and more prestigious, and also more interdisciplinary and angled towards what I'm looking for. It would be a better and more true-to-college environment than my current college. It's way more social than my current university and could have led to better friends/opportunities/life trajectories. Generally, it would have been a more high-quality experience.
I want to have the best opportunities for myself, and I've worked really hard to maximize those opportunities. While the school I am at now is very good, I feel like I need to maximize my opportunities to be successful, and this is a huge setback because not getting into Stanford means that I'm not able to maximize that. While I would be okay with not having the *absolute best* in general, I see college as such an important part of my development/trajectory that it's really hard for me to accept not getting the most I can out of it. That just feels like failure.
The ways I've been coping have been mostly around figuring out what things are good about where I am now and how to make more of an initiative to maximize the opportunities I have here. I'm also well aware that I can be seeing Stanford through the “grass is always greener” thing and comparing my real experience at my current college with a rose-colored picture of Stanford (that might have some truth or might not). I was wondering if you guys had any thoughts on how to cope emotionally/psychologically with this and work towards accepting it.