A twitter follower getting into stalker-uncomfortable territory
May 15, 2014 3:17 PM Subscribe
I have a follower of my twitter account who's constantly causing alarm bells to go off in my head, and I'm curious how to deal with it.
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This is a person who somehow found me and then latched himself on to my account, also making friends with a bunch of people in my social circle. On one hand, he's able to have really in-depth conversations about music and other stuff, sometimes on a surprisingly niche level so that's cool. But then he's pushing buttons all the time, testing my boundaries, and not leaving me any breathing room. For one, he has an "edgy, offensive" sense of humor that always rubs me the wrong way when it's not desperately seeking attention. Sometimes it's offensive to the point of being deeply misogynist or racist, and I then have to call him out. Sometimes he does this in multiple @ conversations with people I really look up to, which is embarrassing.
This person also replies to every. single. tweet. I make, so like if I tweet random ridiculous shit 4 times a day, he can be guaranteed to make a joke in response to each and every one. He has major self-esteem problems and a persecution complex - the world is out to get him, all women consider him unlovable. Yesterday he said that sociopaths don't exist, they're just unloved and determined. He's figured out my first name somehow, even though I run an anonymous account.
I just sent him a direct message telling him to dial it back a bit and not respond so much, I need room to breathe. His response: "I empathize. I'm just looking for validation because I'm very sad and my life is empty. I won't bother you anymore." I told him that I didn't mean to offend. His response: "It's hard not to be offended. You seem like an awesome person and all I wanted was to be friends and for you to like me."
So now on one hand I feel really bad. On the other this feels manipulative.
I consider myself nice to a fault, and I never want to hurt people who seem to be hurting. But twitter is not worth all this drama, yall. Do I just block and close off communication? I fear he might be mentally unhealthy and this could lead to some repercussions, but maybe I'm being melodramatic. The other possibility is he has some (non-platonic) affection for me? Which, how do I deal with that situation exactly.