This is probably an unusual question, but here goes anyway. I'm a chronic procrastinator, and have been having a hard time keeping on task from day to day. I would like to start planning my days ahead of time, but am having some trouble making it a habit. To that end, I've been trying to find an "accountability partner" online to correspond with through email, since I can't think of anyone who could assist me with this in real life. We could encourage each other, as well as keep each other honest. The problem is... I have no clue where to find someone who would be keen on this idea. Can you think of any sites in which I could find someone that might fit the bill? Also, do you have any suggestions for improving my idea? Details inside.
posted by CottonCandyCapers to Human Relations (6 answers total) 14 users marked this as a favorite
(Apologies in advance for the undue length)
I think that this "accountability partner" idea would be a great habit to start for me and any likeminded procrastinator, and should only take a couple of minutes each day. I'm actually excited to get started! I find that if I plan out my next day, I have a much greater chance of getting everything I want to get done, well... done. Furthermore, if I'm communicating with someone, I get the feeling that there will be a much greater chance of me actually planning out the next day.
I tried this idea out on an ADD forum, but the first person who seemed interested only wanted to IM, which ended up with us shooting the shit and defeating the whole purpose. The second person sent one email, vanished, then reappeared a month later asking to start up again. I'd like to find someone that takes this idea as seriously as I would like to.
Let me describe my ideal accountability partner situation, as I'd like to iron out the rules in writing for myself as well:
First off, no IM's or texts - two procrastinators instant messaging each other is a recipe for disaster, so email would probably be best. The idea I was thinking of was that both partners could alternate days in which an email is sent, and 1-3 (or so) daily tasks are sketched out two days in advance. For instance, Partner A plans out his/her next two days; the next day Partner B responds to Partner A, and plans out his/her next two days. We encourage our successes, and if one of us falls off the wagon, the other offers support.
The correspondence could be as little as a brief paragraph. Let me give a vague example of what I am imagining:
"Good job on accomplishing all of your goals! Keep it up. As for me, I was able to do goal 1, 2, and 3, but goal 4 didn't work out so well because I got lazy/ran out of time/ had a brain fart and forgot/etc. I'll do this/that to keep it from happening next time. For tomorrow/the next day, I'm planning on: 1. blah blah, 2. bleh bleh...."
As time goes on, maybe we can even inject some character into the emails so it doesn't get too drab, such as starting them out with "Mission report!" or whatnot.
Even if the goals are not met, at the bare minimum an email must be sent so whoever is struggling can plan out the next couple of days and try to get back on their feet. If one of us becomes lackadaisical and is consistently not sending their emails - and I'll be doing my darndest to make sure it's not me - it would probably be best to call the whole thing off.
(As you can probably tell, I've been thinking about this idea a lot.)
Anyway, that's my general idea of how it could work out, and although I'm perfectly willing to change some of the details to suit my partner... I have no idea where to find him/her!
So far, the only place to find someone I've thought of that might work would be in a reddit subforum, maybe someplace like GetMotivated. I have no clue where else to look, though, and would appreciate some suggestions. (I'll probably just modify what I just typed out here, and post it on whatever sites you might give me).
Other general advice is welcome, and suggestions for improving my plan are appreciated as well. And of course, if there are any MeFites interested partnering up feel free to send a MeMail :)
Many thanks in advance!