Help me help a friend, please!
May 10, 2014 4:33 AM Subscribe
I want to help a good friend who is far away and has some weird health problems.
posted by LoonyLovegood to Human Relations (5 answers total)
A very good friend of mine just started grad school last month. (She is Japanese and goes to grad school in Tokyo; I am German, but went to the same university last year until... well, see posting history.) My friend was always there for me when I felt bad last year, so I try to check in with her often to return the favour if need be. When she last messaged me, she said grad school was stressful but interesting, she took care not to overwork herself, but lately, she's had 40°C fevers and vertigo/dizziness, but when she went to see a doctor about it, they couldn't find anything that could cause this.
I know you are not doctors, but since actual doctors sometimes overlook things (seriously, I could post a lenghty rant about doctors) and the one my friend went to couldn't help her...
I told her that I tend to get fevers when I'm sleep deprived (why is that, anyway?), but never that high. I also tend to have vertigo once in a while. Just a few days ago, I almost fell off my chair because the world suddenly started revolving around me. No one ever diagnosed me with anything either (which doesn't surprise me, given the quality of doctors I've seen over the years), but of course that doesn't help my friend. She should probably go see someone else if the symptoms persist.
I want to be there for her, even if I'm far away, but what else can I do besides offer to always listen, send the occasional care package and let her know she is important to me? I wish I could solve her health problems, but of course I can't do that.