19 = bad life decisions
May 10, 2014 3:22 AM Subscribe
Should I get back together with a cheater?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (27 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
Hey mefites, my ex-boyfriend who I dated for half a semester got drunk and slept with someone and then after that I made a really harsh comment and he used that as a reason to break up with me over the worst text message ever. He didn't even tell me about sleeping about someone else until the second time I asked. And then he asked to get back together at the start of this semester while I was still tipsy because but I was so furious I quite forcefully said no. I thought I had gotten over it then, and on paper I am aware how bad this sounds but ever since the break up I've felt so empty and sad. And I've been on dates but I haven't liked anyone as much as this guy. Ever. And part of me wants to forgive this and give it a second chance, but the other part thinks NO!! I want to have self-respect! And a third part of me is like 'there are no rules in relationships, follow what your gut says'
It's been weeks since the breakup and I still think about it quite a lot and I really think that this time things would be better because the break up forced us to open up and be honest with each other. I don't know why but I can't let go! I don't even want it for the long term just for a few months more because being with him felt so right and he was really sweet until the breakup. I don't think I'm thinking straight and all my friends have been telling me that he sounds like bad news (I would give the same advice) but this is hard! I don't think he realizes that I'm still hung up about this because I look happy. And I told him I had no feelings anymore so he probably will leave me alone unless I approach him. So should I? Is it worth another chance? How would I go about it? And if not, how do I get over this? We've been broken up for longer than our entire relationship and yet I'm still thinking about it! Is it that bad to let myself make some bad life decisions at this age? Part of me thinks 'this is a terrible idea' but the other part thinks 'make mistakes and learn from them' 'take risks!'. What should I do?