What is therapy for?
May 9, 2014 6:56 PM Subscribe
I'm not understanding how it's supposed to work. How much is the therapist supposed to drive the conversation, and how much are you supposed to do so yourself? How do you know if it's going well? What are you even supposed to get out of it? What are you supposed to do to get the most out of it?
posted by rue72 to Health & Fitness (33 answers total) 23 users marked this as a favorite
When I talked to a psychiatrist last week she asked if the therapy appointment I'd had previously had been helpful. It blew my mind that the previous therapy appointment was even supposed to be helpful, I had thought it was like a test so that I could get my prescription. Now I see that was the wrong way to conceptualize it.
During that therapy appointment, the therapist asked a bunch of questions about my family, which felt invasive, and echoed back to me what she thought I was saying. She's probably a fine therapist, but I was confused as to what she was trying to do and it was overall more aggravating than anything else. Now I'm supposed to go to therapy regularly (though I have to pick another therapist -- how?), and also have to go to another place to get more evaluation/documentation done (and maybe therapy also? not sure at this point), and I'm not exactly looking forward to any of it.
How is this *supposed* to work? What am I *supposed* to be doing so that it works well? What's my mindset *supposed* to be? I'm confused. How do I even know what to talk about? Which kinds of problems can therapy be used to fix anyway? What kinds of problems is it not useful for? I want to work with the therapist(s) and have things go well but I don't know how to do that right now.
If you can, please spell out everything for me? Don't worry about being condescending, I've been having a hard time thinking clearly and am pretty dense at the moment. The idea of making or going to these appointments is daunting, but the psychiatrist is insistent and I need to do it for documentation reasons so I'm going to have to try. Please tell me what to do so that these appointments can go alright, I can do a good job, and things can turn out OK.