Facebook Friend Request Etiquette
May 4, 2014 7:16 PM Subscribe
I returned to Facebook recently after having deactivated my account there for the past several years. I've noticed that some of the people I've friended since going back on there have not responded to my friend request, even though I know that they've been on the site since I sent it. What would be some reasons for this?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (31 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
For various reasons, I deactivated my Facebook account right before my college graduation, which was several years ago. For various unrelated reasons, I came back recently. When I returned, I sent friend requests to most non-college people whom I've met and connected with over the past several years, as well as some people I went to school with but did not connect with until after graduation, whether it be through LinkedIn or alumni parties.
A lot has changed since I've last been on the site-- for example, liking things was a relatively new concept when I left-- and I guess Facebook etiquette has changed too. I noticed that a lot of the people that I've sent requests to responded within the hour. But there are quite a few that are still pending. Some of them are to people who I know are never on Facebook. But others I have seen on various Facebook groups that we belong to, or they've uploaded a photo, or something, but yet haven't responded to my friend request, and it still shows up as pending when I go to look at their profile. I know what a rejected friend request looks like, so I know that these are pending.
I'm puzzled about this. I know with me, I respond to friend requests right away-- I mean, they pop up in the page or in the app, so it's impossible to ignore. Do people let them pile up? Should I message some of the people I friended? What could be happening?