OkCupid: Why is my inbox not flooded and what's wrong with my pictures?
May 2, 2014 8:02 AM Subscribe
I'm a woman that just made a new OK Cupid account after a long hiatus. The amount of messages I'm getting are abysmal compared to when I was on the site six months ago. What am I doing wrong?
posted by Autumn to Human Relations (49 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
is my profile. I think there must be something in the rewritten version that's turning people off? I went from having 100s of views/pages of messages in a few days when I signed up just six months ago, and on this new account I have less than a page of messages after almost a week. For a 23 year old woman, this feels like an ego blow. xD
Also, according to MyBestFace every single picture I have of myself is horrible. Even when I tried to upload ones of me doing the MySpace angles and the flirty face and the other things suggested in the blog.When I compare other people's reports to mine, my "best" face only gets picked as often as a man's "best face." People actually liked my full body shots *less* than what I have up now and I'm not overweight or anything like that. What gives?
I recently met someone from a different website and they commented that "I'm a lot more attracted to you than I thought I would be. You look way hotter than in your photos." I tend to be considered "hot" in person so I'm assuming it's the photos and not just me.
Oh! The type of person I'm hoping to attract: Creative musician/artist types, hipsters, deep thinkers... you know the type. I'm bi but I'm only trying to attract men right now.