You're Just A Fatty McFatterson Whining About Pain.
May 1, 2014 10:55 AM Subscribe
Pap test anxiety! How do you cope with having to get a pap test and get the results you want out of the appointment when you have a history of really crappy dismissive doctors? (abuse/gender complications).
posted by kanata to Health & Fitness (17 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
(Canadian small town so I have no choice about choosing the OB/GYN available)
I have been referred to an OB/GYN to find something that will completely stop my periods and seek out relief for mood swings. I have med resistance depression and am a child abuse victim as well as being gender fluid. My periods cause a lot of anxiety and are sometimes triggering for my PTSD (as well as my periods are just getting heavier and more painful as I get older).
My shrink told me to just get the shot. My GP doesn't want to do that because of it affecting my moods. He referred me to the OB/GYN to see about getting an abalation to help but reading up on that it seems to do nothing hormonally. I want to make the most of the appointment but am nervous about being dismissed if I reveal too much. As well as the idea of pap tests are triggering in themselves.
Over the years I have had my menstrual issues dismissed by various doctors because of my depression or being too fat. I have been told it is in my head. That it is a weight issue. That every woman feels pain and I should suck it up. That the woman doctor didn't have bad problems so certainly I am malingering when I say I am bent over in pain and bleeding through layers of clothes. I have had people shadowing the doctor invited in to take a look. And repeatedly been ignored about my actual problem and have the doctor harp on that I have lumpy breasts and mention them ten times in an appointment. Heck, once I got told off for leaving my clothes on the floor at a walk on clinic.
And this was before I had memories of abuse and was diagnosed with PTSD and figured out my gender issues.
How can I manage my anxiety at the appointment and not just be written off as a crazy whining woman? I have never met this doctor and have no other options but to see him.
Is an abalation the best choice in this situation (YNMD)? Are there other options I should bring up with him? Do I mention the abuse/gender or will that get me written off? The depression? Am I making a big deal out of nothing?