Why men gotta be like that!
April 30, 2014 5:23 PM Subscribe
Why do men with wives/girlfriends aggressively hit on me?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (35 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
I've noticed this pattern where people (men, as I am female) who are very openly flirting me are almost always in serious relationships. Here are some examples:
- Coworker who I've never spoken to before catches my eye, stops dead in his tracks and smiles, and walks over to introduce himself, is super friendly and flirty, etc... - Engaged.
- Other dude at work who I rarely talk to and really don't know tells me that "I should come around more often" and is just a little too friendly - Married.
- Stranger that I saw on a semi-regular basis who eyefucks me, smiles at me, etc... - Gave him my number and found out he has a girlfriend.
- General trend of being around couples where I feel like the boyfriend stares at me aggressively - One time the girlfriend actually said something to him in front us. This is always really uncomfortable and kind of humiliating for me.
Is this just a weird case of confirmation bias? Is this just in my head? Is this a thing? How do I get them to stop? I feel like I can no longer trust when someone is flirting me because now I just assume they're in a relationship and off limits.