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April 30, 2014 5:47 AM Subscribe
I think my spouse has chronic depression and it is badly effecting our relationship. He has agreed to attend a couples counselling session tomorrow but is very reluctant to admit to depression. I've never done couples counselling. How do I raise the issue of his depression in the session?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (17 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
He is only going to the counselling because he knows I am reaching the end of my endurance with the current state of our relationship. I have had one on one sessions with counsellors before and attach no stigma to it. He does attach stigma and may be resistant to any suggestion that some of his behaviours, or lack of behaviours, indicate depression and/or anxiety. The session tomorrow is with a woman whom neither of us know.
His depressive behaviour and daily dourness are at close to deal-breaker stage in the shorter or longer term from my perspective but I can't give up on us until I try everything. How can I best approach this session with the goal of him moving toward acknowledging his depression and, hopefully, choosing to do something about it?
also, if I am approaching this the wrong way, please let me know that too