Help me feel better about my daughter's name.
April 29, 2014 8:17 PM Subscribe
I am the proud mother of a 14 week old daughter. Now I have the terrible feeling I picked the wrong name, and I'm thinking of changing it. Can you help?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (200 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
Her name is Maeve (rhymes with "wave"). I always liked the name since I heard a little girl called it a few years ago. My husband likes it too -- nay, loves it -- which is surprising since he really hates most of the names I suggested. (We also have a two year old son, whose name -- which is pretty common -- I still like.) I thought it sounded sweet but also sophisticated and not too common.
I guess I am reconsidering it because I thought it would be much easier for people than it has been, and I'd liked it for so long I didn't really second guess it. We also didn't run it by people before naming her it because we wanted it to be a surprise. But my family seriously can't pronounce it. (Even when we say, rhymes with wave!) My grandmother seems like she'll never be able to say it, and calls her Mauve, which makes me so sad. Everyone we meet gives us quizzical looks, and says "Mavis?" which I hate. It bothers me ALL THE TIME, and I get kind of weepy about it. Also we have an M last name and I'm now worried it's a mouthful.
Also, google reveals that a LOT of people (okay, a lot of yahoo answers's people, but still) HATE the name, and think it's unpronounceable (but it shouldn't be!) and that it sounds like an old lady. One girl wrote that she's going to change it when she's 21. I read this and look at my daughter -- again, weepy. I obsessively search for opinions on the web.
I now want to change it to something simpler -- I have a name I really dislike, and it breaks my heart to think that I might have done the same to my daughter! Maybe a name that would work better in more languages? My husband says I'm fixating on the name issue as way of channeling all the anxiety about being a mother again. (He may well be right about this). He points out all the people who say they like they name, and he really does NOT want to change it.
What do you think mefites? Can I get over this? Do you like the name? (And if it's your name, do YOU like it?) And is it too late to change it now that she's almost four months old and we've already sent out a million announcements?