Best ways to discuss new pregnancy with stepchild?
April 25, 2014 11:28 AM Subscribe
My husband and I have been married almost a year (lived together before that) and have a good relationship with his 12-year-old son, who lives about an hour away and is with us in summers and every other weekend. Now I am pregnant. We are excited to tell stepson this weekend, but I want to think a bit about...
posted by bluedeans to Human Relations (20 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
a) how to explain that there is a possibility of miscarriage or other mishap (I'm barely pregnant- 6 weeks). My parents know and Husband and stepson will tell his grandparents, but otherwise we will keep it under wraps for another 6 weeks.
b) how much biology to get into. I feel like he could handle the full info about what is going on physically but I don't want to overwhelm or gross him out. Was considering possibly looking at an anatomy book that we have together, or one of those "what's happening this week of the pregnancy" websites together.
c) what other concerns we might expect. Husband and stepson have discussed this possibility before and stepson has said he is excited. Including him and having him feel that we are all one family is a top priority for us.
I wonder for those who might have experience with similar situations - do you have any suggestions for telling your older stepchild that they will have a younger sibling? Easing the transition? Things to watch out for? etc?
Another perhaps-relevant detail here is that he plans to live with us in high school and this might potentially be a reason for him to come live with us earlier than that.
I didnt see many metafilter questions on this topic, hence my emergence from lurker to poster. Would appreciate links to relevant sources too.