should I attend estranged sister's babyshower?
April 19, 2014 11:44 AM Subscribe
Today I got a message from my brother inviting me to our older sister's baby shower on Sunday and saying that she would really like me to come. I'm torn about attending because ...well, my sister didn't actually invite me. It's at her place so obviously it's not a surprise shower. Instead she relied on our brother to do it.
posted by mariisoul to Human Relations (27 answers total)
Some background: My sister instigated the conflict between my parents and I that led to my estrangement from the family last summer. I did my best to keep in touch with them without actually visiting because it wasn't safe for me. In the fall I found out that I had cancer and reached out to them for support. Silence. I haven't heard anything from anyone until now.
My family is the type to hold a grudge and cause a scene. So, I am worried that attending would result in some sort of fiasco that would put me in a dangerous situation. I'm not prepared to deal with that. On the other hand, I would love to see my family, especially my brothers. This could be a chance to begin mending our relationships. I'm worried that if I don't go, the relationship will be lost forever.
Any advice? If I suck it up and attend - how can I make it less awkward. Or, does this relationship seem too far gone?