I feel like the only insane person for being sane.
April 18, 2014 6:35 PM Subscribe
My girlfriend, her parent, and her entire family are 100% convinced
that one of her parents has an incurable terminal disease. The catch? None of the test results have come back. In fact, none of the tests have even been done
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I feel like a complete crazy person, and the odd man out for being the only person involved in this entire situation who thinks "Maybe we should wait to assume everything is totally fucked and ruined?"
This is a genetic disease which grandparent/her effected parents parent had, and died from rather suddenly. Not cancer or anything like that.
Everyone is running around screaming and crying and making end of life plans. My girlfriend has taken a leave of absence from work. This entire situation started because of webmd and wikipedia type internet searches, and a fairly rude/blase doctor who went "Hmm, maybe it could be that... i don't know. you need to see a geneticist and run some tests, here's a referral"
So to make a clear question, how do i respond to this in a "Maybe we should wait to act this way until we know for sure" way without sounding like an ass who doesn't care? Is that even what i should be trying to do? What's my best course of action here? the entire thing seems SUPER chicken little and i've just been zipping my lip after bringing it up a few times.
Because, from my perspective, everyone is drastically irrationally freaking out. Every time i bring that up i just get a gruff "If we wait that long, by then it will be too late to start preparing!" type of response. And very soon, decisions may be made like quitting jobs or selling property and such that can't be easily undone. I'm getting text messages about stuff like doctor assisted suicide, and it all just seems SO premature and extreme. And i'm sort of married to the situation...