Sibling in a downward spiral and no idea what to do
April 18, 2014 12:48 PM Subscribe
My brother is a senior in high school, and after a lifetime of excellent academic performance, seems to be having a nervous breakdown.
His class is a month away from graduating, but he might end up not graduating and thus not going to college. The situation started at the beginning of this year, when he found out he was rejected by his early decision school. After that, he began to turn in his homework late, resulting in study hall, and then skipping the study hall, only to get detention. When questioned, he would say that he doesn't see the point of doing homework anymore, so he wasn't going to do it. My parents have talked to his teachers and the principal numerous times, and they have been very generous with extending the due dates for homework. He has been seeing a therapist, but he says it doesn't help him and he still won't be doing his homework.
I'm not sure if he's depressed. I think he is, although he denies it, and then if I question him any further about his emotional state or why he's not doing his homework, he gets very hostile and snappy. He has always been a very intelligent, logical person, although all of his friends are online. I worry about the influence the internet is having on him, as he's shut up in his room all day every day, playing games and surfing the net.
The school is now fast losing their patience with him, and they will probably not let him graduate. Our backup plan is for him to go to community college and then transfer to a 4-year school, but my parents would really rather not do this, because it feels like such a waste.
I feel like maybe he should go on antidepressants, but he might not be willing to, as he insists he's not depressed. He is just super stubborn and no longer seems to care about anything except playing games, whereas before he took great pride in his schoolwork and being at the top of his programming and engineering classes.
I also should add that my parents have not pressured him academically in any way, as he has always maintained good grades on his own. He is also skipping school now, refusing to get out of bed in the mornings.
The three schools we are considering for him now are U of Washington, UC Irvine, and Santa Clara University. He applied to those as a computer engineering major, so if anyone can speak positively about the engineering program in any of those schools, I'd love to hear it. We are ending up having to decide for him, because he says he doesn't care. Of course, he may end up not being to attend in the fall or deferring his acceptance.