My sister drives home drunk.
April 18, 2014 7:05 AM Subscribe
I moved in with my sister a couple of weeks ago. She just drove home drunk, and this isn't the first time it's happened. Please, please help me get her to stop.
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Let's call her Kelly. We are both in our twenties, we live four hours from our parents. My mom is a functioning alcoholic, I am two years sober. Kelly drinks maybe four times a week with friends. We are very very close.
Tonight: At 1 am Kelly drove herself home after she got in a fight with the guy she's seeing. She's sloppy drunk but not completely incoherent.
When I realized she was drunk I asked her why she drove home instead of calling me and she said, "I just couldn't stand being there any longer, I had to get out." Of course I told her that was dangerous and irresponsible and she said "I know, I know, I'm sorry, I won't do it again." But I know this happened at least one other time before I moved up (got in a fight with a guy, drove away dramatically and drunkenly ) and I'm sure there have been other times.
Things I told her-
I told her that she could call me or text me any time, at work ( I work evenings ) or at home and I would either pick her up myself or pay for a cab. She knows that this is for real as I've done it for her before.
I told her that it seems to follow a pattern where she is drunk, gets in a dramatic fight with someone and wants to leave ASAP. I tried to insert myself into her drunken future; I asked her to picture how she feels at that time and she said "I just need to get out because I can't stand to be around them." I said maybe she could go outside and text me instead and she said maybe, but I'm worried that she will forget. We literally stood in the kitchen for three minutes while I forced her to picture that future situation, trying to get it to stick.
I also told her that if it happened again I would tell our parents who we are pretty close with (she said herself, "that's worse than the cops!").
She is a teacher and has a lot to lose if she got a DUI.
I asked her if she thought about what would happen if she accidentally killed someone and she just repeated, "I won't do it again."
What else can I do?? I realize I sound like the psycho older sister but my world would end if something happened to her. And- I get where she's coming from. I drove home countless times when I was drunk. Nothing happened to me, and I'm sure she feels invincible and I worry that she is just paying me lip service to get me to stop worrying. Should I call the police if it happens again? I realize how drastic the consequences may be .