What do I do when okcupid intersects real life?
April 17, 2014 8:43 AM Subscribe
So, I was always terrified of this happening, but then I got over it. Well, it turns out I was right- eventually, if I stay on okcupid long enough, I'm going to hit the end of single men my age in my city.
posted by quincunx to Human Relations (38 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I made friends with this chick a couple months ago, she's swell, we're both 26 and single, we get along great. I needed new girlfriends because I was new in town (again) and she needed new girlfriends because "all of my friends are guys I know through my brother." Well, she had been talking about inviting me out with "the boys" for ages but it never happened, until Tuesday. I went out, and met "the boys" who it turns out all work at the same software company. Throughout the night they say things like, "You haven't met Dan yet? You need to meet Dan." or "Does she know Matt? You'd love Matt." (names changed) Blah blah blah, I have a good time and it's fun.
I get home, and add them on Facebook. New friends! In my city! Guys who know guys! What could ever go wrong, right? Great news, right?
Turns out, through Facebook's ever-so-helpful "people you may know" filter, one of the absent "boys" is this guy I totally brushed off for an okcupid date last month.
It probably wouldn't be a big deal, except I actually responded to him and then set up a date and then cancelled it. We also had some chit-chat back and forth and exchanged names and numbers. I know, I'm a terrible person- seriously, I felt terrible about it at the time- I just didn't think there would ever be real-life consequences. Well, there are. Now I'm not so new-in-town and the city isn't a glittering fun bowl of anonymity anymore. Shit just got real.
Realer: We're going out on Friday (tomorrow) because it's one of their birthdays. The rest of the absent "boys" are probably going to be there.
I mean, we'll be drunk and dancing so it might not be terribly awkward, but then again, it might be.
The right thing to do is completely ignore it and pretend it never happened, right?