Problematic roommate finally moves out. Everybody is happy! Problematic roommate gives one day's notice that she is moving back in. Everybody is sad! How to head off disaster?
This is the same roommate from this question
. Since then, the following developments have happened:
- D said she'd move out in February, as I mentioned then. She did not move out in February because of some vague half-baked business plans that I guess were supposed to make her money? Nobody knows.
- D finally moves out toward the end of March to stay with a friend of hers upstate, saying she just couldn't afford the rent anymore, which is fair, the rent is too damn high, etc. She only takes about three bags' worth of stuff and leaves about 75% of her shit in the apartment, which either gets donated to Goodwill, thrown out or if it's furniture either left where it is or repurposed (she left a wardrobe behind, I'm using it now.) We asked her and she said this was OK. Getting rid of all her crap means we can actually organize the cabinets/fridge/storage/etc, which was... not entirely the case before. She also sets up mail forwarding.
- Everyone apparently agrees with me that they're glad she moved out and were purposely-or-subconsciously avoiding being around when she was. We hang out as roommates for the first time in, well, ever.
- I let a few people I know are looking know that there's a room open here because it really is a good deal and randoms off Craigslist have a chance of being, well, the above. Either their timing is wrong or something else comes up (or maybe it's me, I'm not stupid) but they don't jump. The landlord says she'll post the ad that night but apparently didn't (one of the roommates who'd been here longer than I was said it sometimes takes a while.)
- Today: I get a text at noon from D saying she's moving back in tomorrow and to be around to let her in. This is the first I have heard of this. It is definitely the first any of my roommates had heard of this because apparently she still hasn't told them. (I guess I didn't get on her bad side? Or else she thinks I'm the most likely to be around to move her shit in for her, which, fuck that.) Where she got the money for this, or how she's okay with 75% of her stuff now being gone, or where she's going to put the 25% of her stuff that isn't gone, or whether she's going to move out again in a month, or whether she's going to, like, un-forward her mail, is completely beyond me.
So I guess this raises a number of questions:
1. WHAT THE FUCK
2. Is there realistically anything we can do? She's already told the landlord and is moving in literally in less than 24 hours, so a white lie ("Oh, one of my friends is interested!") isn't an option, and it isn't a formal lease situation, so technically there's no reason why she can't do this, right? She's (had? has?) been here the second-longest of any of us, so in that sense she does seem to have seniority in disputes like this. Or is that not how it works?
3. What obligations do I have in all this? Do I have to be in the apartment tomorrow to let her in? I told her I had to be somewhere for work, which is half true and half a lie (I do have some errands that should probably get done sooner or later, but let's not kid ourselves, the real reason is I just don't want to be in the house). She is not happy about this. What about the space that used to be hers? A lot of it now has furniture or other people's stuff in it.
4. A thing I can easily see happening, given, um, current precedent, is her deciding to move out again in two months and then deciding to move back in again. Obviously her finances aren't my problem, and I do feel bad, but how best to avoid that?
5. Do I even have any right to be upset about this? This whole fiasco is making me feel and/or act like a bitch. It's not that she's done anything wrong
per se except being thoroughly unpleasant and flaky, and I'm not exactly the world's best roommate myself. And yet.