Anxiety re: The Job Search.
April 15, 2014 12:25 PM Subscribe
I am most likely getting laid off in about a month or so, at which time I will be able to collect unemployment. However, unemployment doesn’t last forever. The thing is, my anxiety about the job search is preventing me from doing what’s required to get the next gig. Can you give me the kick in the butt that I need? More details inside.
posted by koolaidnovel to Work & Money (15 answers total) 9 users marked this as a favorite
Hi – mid-twenties female here, new to the Meta community. Now onto the issue.
I know that a currently employed candidate is more attractive to employers, and I know right now is the best time for me to be actively looking for a new job. You’d think that the prospect of losing my job in the next month would be enough motivation, but it’s not. The job-acquiring process seems like such a high mountain to climb, and just thinking about what I have to do in order to get a job stresses me out. The follow-up phone calls and interviewing process are what stress me out the most. Every time I return a recruiter’s call, I have to summon all my energy to sound bright, smart, and like someone they want to submit for the job. In about 8 months of “looking”, I obtained one interview. I am someone who puts interviewing for a job on the top 10 worst fears list, so I had started practicing and worrying WEEKS before the interview was even scheduled, and it sucked up all of my energy. After all that, I didn’t even get the job! I think that these steps in the job search process make me nervous because I’m so unconfident about it: what I’m supposed to say, how the conversation should go, etc. It all feels like a foreign language to me. At my current job that is coming to an end, the work has all but stopped, so I spend the entire day surfing the Internet. You’d think I’d then have the energy to go home and do some job hunting, but I don’t. I actually feel drained coming home. I’m also someone who gets a lot of self-worth from their job, and feeling worthless at work is killing my self-esteem and making me depressed. Not to mention, my family and live-in boyfriend are becoming frustrated at my inaction. I am an intelligent woman in my mid-twenties who should want to take charge of her future – why don’t I? Instead, I want to run away and hide from this whole situation. Please give me a push – stories, quotes, whatever, so that I can feel motivated to just bite the bullet already?