sharing passwords with significant others?
April 13, 2014 5:37 PM Subscribe
My SO recently gave me his password. What does this mean?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (37 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
Apparently he uses the same one for almost everything, and he said he wants me to know the passwords to his Facebook, email, and other accounts. He said that it was symbolic more than anything else, and also in case he dies. (?!) He also said he didn't expect me to give him my passwords, which... I did not. Mostly because I was just very surprised and hadn't thought about the subject before. I've heard of girls (and guys, I suppose, though less frequently it seems) demanding their SOs to give them their passwords, but we've definitely never been that type of couple. Very laid-back, no jealousy issues, and neither of us have ever requested this information of one another.
While on the one hand, I feel glad that he trusts me with such personal information, I can't determine what the endgame is here... does he really want me to share my information, even though he says he doesn't? There's no logical reason for me to have his password, and it makes me feel weird to think about ever actually using it. I have no desire to police his private communications.
Our relationship is going well, but I guess I'm just curious... is this a new form of trust in the digital age? (We're both in our mid-twenties.) Is this something a lot of people do? Should I just forget about it and move on? Is there another conversation we should be having? I guess I should be happy he's not trying to hide things from me, but I also don't understand his desire to do this purely of his own accord.