He's just definitely that into you
April 9, 2014 1:48 PM Subscribe
What does healthy requited love look like? How do I know if a person Likes Me Back?
posted by Sara C. to Human Relations (31 answers total) 75 users marked this as a favorite
I have a history of falling for people who are unavailable. Whether that's awkward unrequited crushes, "he's just not that into you", casual sex gone wrong, or people who are emotionally withholding and constantly running hot and cold before ultimately settling on "I love you, but I'm not in love with you."
Because of that, I'm having a really hard time setting a baseline for what The Opposite Of That looks like.
Obviously, there are easy things like "returns your calls", "initiates hangouts", "introduces you to their friends". But I feel like actually participating in the relationship is a bare minimum, not the only sign you need that it's smooth sailing ahead.
On the other side, female friends have asked me things like "does he dote on you?", and I've got plenty of examples of couples in my life who go in for big gestures, or who are always super shmoopy together, or who otherwise show their feelings in really big, obvious ways. But I've never been a huge romantic, and a lot of that stuff either turns me off or is just way outside my expectations of normal behavior.
What does a relationship where someone Is That Into You look like? Am I wrong about not expecting grand romantic gestures? How do you know when someone really likes you? On the flip side, are there specific ways that you show your partner that you care for them?