My sex drive plummeted after my BF moved in. WTF?
April 5, 2014 12:00 PM Subscribe
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 1.5 years, and he recently moved into my duplex with me. Now that we're living together, I just don't feel sexy or like I'm wanting sexytimes. :( It's very distressing, and I'm not sure what to do.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (8 answers total) 9 users marked this as a favorite
Until recently, we saw each other every 3 weeks because of his work. I felt a lot of desire for him! Now we live together and my desire has dropped off. I don't know what gives! Some ideas:
* I've gained about 10-15 pounds over the last year, and also haven't been exercising much. I'm going to work on those things.
*My bf has some issues with maintaining erection and rarely orgasms through sex.
*We've done a lot of negotiating about things like positions because I like more vanilla sex and he wants more variety and pressure. This has at times made me feel obligated. This might be contributing.
* In general because he wants sex more than I do, he often feels frustrated. We are working on trying to schedule sex, but sometimes that also feels like an obligation. But the truth is I just don't feel desire like I did before. Recently he noticed I was trying to avoid sex and he felt very bad. I did too.
I would be very interested in hearing how other people in this situation have resolved it. I love my bf very much and want to feel sexy again!