Best friend's dad died suddenly. Besides myself, what should I bring?
April 4, 2014 6:57 AM Subscribe
My best friend called me last night to say that her father had died of a heart attack yesterday. She was clearly still in shock. She and her husband drove in overnight and as soon as she calls I'll leave work to go spend the day with her and her family. I don't want to show up empty-handed. Besides food for lunch, what should I bring with me?
posted by SeedStitch to Human Relations (27 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
My friend and I are both in our late twenties; this is the first time a close friend of mine has lost a parent. I know her family well and my husband and I are honorary family members. This was a huge shock.
I will be bringing a sub tray for lunch, so people can pick at it when they want. Best Friend is pregnant and won't be eating the subs; what should I bring for her to eat? (I would ask, of course, but I don't think she will want to have to decide anything, even that minor, right now.) My husband will be making pulled pork for tomorrow.
My go-to stuff when I'm sad is good chocolate and good wine, but I don't know if it would be appropriate to bring the same stuff I always bring for their famous Christmas party on a day like this.
Basically, I want to bring things that will help them take care of themselves when they're ready to, but I don't know what that looks like. Magazines, for when my friend needs to just not think about it for a little while? Bath salts? The aforementioned chocolate and wine? I've cleared my schedule and will be at her side as much as she needs all weekend (and in the coming months), but is there any unexpected thing that helped you through a time like this that I'm not thinking of?