Beanplating a job offer
April 3, 2014 7:14 PM Subscribe
A potential employer has extended a formal offer to me. Taking the job would solve some problems, but would create so many others because of the time commitment involved. Is it ethical to turn down an offer at this stage?
posted by anonymous to Work & Money (26 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I've been making myself a list of pros and cons about accepting a job offer I received last week. Notably, I can't come up with a pro that shows I'm excited about the employer, or the kind of work I'll be doing. Mostly, on the pro side, it's practical stuff like not being unemployed, not needing to hit the savings account anymore, giving my spouse a break. I guess a big pro is that it's a job, and there aren't any competing job offers right now.
But on the con side, my proposed work schedule creates so many problems in terms of work/life balance. I'd see my spouse early in the morning before my spouse leaves for work, or just on Friday nights after my spouse gets home, and Saturdays when we're both home all day. The job hours would also prevent me from ever attending rehearsals with a touring band I'm in. Ever. I'd fear getting let go from the band due to lack of commitment. I'd be able to perform with them on the weekend, but occasional weeknight and Sunday performances would mean using vacation time that I wouldn't need to use if I had a more standard job schedule. Isolation from my spouse, family and friends and important extra-curriculars would take a toll on me psychologically. I'd need to keep looking for a job.
tl;dr: I have a supportive spouse, can pretend this job offer didn't happen, and just wait for the next one, but I'm not sure how much of an idiot I'm being by turning it down despite the numerous downsides.