How to be there for someone from far away
April 1, 2014 7:42 AM Subscribe
How do I write a letter of condolence to my best friend whose dad passed away when it is the only way I have of contacting him?
posted by holmesian to Human Relations (9 answers total)
My best friend, I'll call him Jake, has been in an alcohol treatment facility out of state for about a week and a half now and will be there for three or four more weeks. His parents are divorced and he rarely (every couple years or so) sees his dad who lives a few states away. His dad had been suffering from lung cancer for a while now and a few weeks before Jake entered treatment, he visited his dad as things seem to have gone downhill. This morning I received a text from his mother who told me that his dad had died and she was on her way to deliver the news to him in person. The only way I have of contacting Jake is by letter and I have written him one already about how I'm glad he's getting the treatment he needs, etc. What should I say/should I not say in a letter to him regarding the loss of his father? Generally, he would only be a half hour away from me and I would be able to drive down and talk to/comfort him, but with him being in the facility I won't be able to visit for a couple of weeks. I've never had to write this kind of letter before especially to someone so close to me. For what it's worth, I lost my mother to cancer when I was five. Is this worth talking about or would that be improper?