How to be there for someone from far away
April 1, 2014 7:42 AM Subscribe
How do I write a letter of condolence to my best friend whose dad passed away when it is the only way I have of contacting him?
My best friend, I'll call him Jake, has been in an alcohol treatment facility out of state for about a week and a half now and will be there for three or four more weeks. His parents are divorced and he rarely (every couple years or so) sees his dad who lives a few states away. His dad had been suffering from lung cancer for a while now and a few weeks before Jake entered treatment, he visited his dad as things seem to have gone downhill. This morning I received a text from his mother who told me that his dad had died and she was on her way to deliver the news to him in person. The only way I have of contacting Jake is by letter and I have written him one already about how I'm glad he's getting the treatment he needs, etc. What should I say/should I not say in a letter to him regarding the loss of his father? Generally, he would only be a half hour away from me and I would be able to drive down and talk to/comfort him, but with him being in the facility I won't be able to visit for a couple of weeks. I've never had to write this kind of letter before especially to someone so close to me. For what it's worth, I lost my mother to cancer when I was five. Is this worth talking about or would that be improper?