Is a second dog such a big deal?
March 31, 2014 4:27 PM Subscribe
My wife and I have a dog. She wants to adopt another one, I'm being very resistant. Are my reasons completely ridiculous? Are two dogs really better than one?
posted by BlerpityBloop to Pets & Animals (53 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
My wife and I have been together for years, no kids, we adopted a pup ~6 months ago and he is the love of our life. He's well taken care of, knows his place in the pecking order, sleeps on the end of the bed, has his spot on the couch, isn't spoiled but certainly gets the star treatment as my only 'child'. I love the bond we have and I love our little family unit. We are a lovely little trio.
My wife insists that he would be happier with a buddy and is pushing hard for another. She peruses the local adoption ads regularly and shows me pictures of cute dogs that we should adopt. Wife and I are golden, this is just something we are disagreeing on.
I'm worried that I don't have the love to give to another dog. I spent years looking forward to and months training this current little guy. He is my one and only, I don't think I can muster up the motivation to do it again for another dog. I'm self employed so the responsibility isn't an issue, but i don't think I have it in me split my affection. We both agree we want 'our' dogs, not "his and hers'.
More importantly, i'm worried that my current dog will be jealous/worried that he did something wrong or that I don't love him enough, so much so that I had to get another dog. I know that dogs are pack animals and a hierarchy will develop, so i'm stressed out that my dog will be insecure if we bring another in to the pack and he will be the grunt (he's a big softie) - like he's doing something wrong and we don't love him and had to get another. is that ridiculous?
We can more than take care of another dog (finances and attention are not an issue), we have an enormous fenced in back yard for them to get in to trouble and i'm home most of the day, but SHOULD we? If getting another dog will increase my guy's happiness then I am sold, but I'm not convinced this is the case.