Should I have a roommate if I'm bad at having one?
March 30, 2014 11:35 PM Subscribe
Should I have a roommate if most of my experiences with roommates have been bad? / How can I be better at living with others?
posted by ichomp to Human Relations (17 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
I am thinking about moving out of my parents' house. I will probably have to/ I would like to live with a roommate. I do not want to live by myself, although it's easier in some ways, because I am scared of living alone.
However, I've had poor relationships with some of my roommates in the past (in dorm situations). Looking back, some of it was a poor fit (in lifestyle) but a lot of it was my unwillingness to get along with them. I shut myself off from a lot of social situations and I have problems I need to work on myself, in how I make friends and relate to others.
Now I know it's important to find roommates with similar lifestyle who's on the same page. For example, time to sleep/wake up, whether other people come in, etc. But in general, I'm not great at being with people yet. I wonder if I should look for roommates when I do move out, or what kind of living situation would be best. It likely will not be with someone I know.
To put it another way, how can a kind of anti-social person be a good roommate?