[sh*tstorm filter] I don't know how (or if) I can/should help a friend
March 29, 2014 2:31 PM Subscribe
I am unsure on how to advise a friend on a complicated interpersonal matter despite making promises on looking into possible solutions.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (14 answers total)
A friend recently told me about a personal and work related crisis involving a superior. She was dating him on and off until last summer, but broke things off after his shifty behavior. She later found out shockingly through a colleague (who she says is trustworthy) that said superior was also seeing other women at work, and was actually in a LTR with a co-worker at the same institution.
Recently the superior's SO got suspicious and looked through his SMSs--she broke up with him last week (he denies everything, yet cleared his phone memory but hasn't fought for the relationship) and she also talked with my friend, and believes her for not having known of his two-timing behavior.
Knowing a few friends who work in the same field in a different city, I told her I would ask for some advice on dealing with the power asymmetries and the gossip shit storm aftermath. I've never dealt with anything like this in my life, and I'm not sure if I'm involving myself in something that is perhaps going to die down eventually anyways?