My roommate and good friend invited me to her bday party. But this out of town visitor I really don't like is also coming. Now I am debating if I want to go.
I've mentioned this person before
. Long story short I went ice cold and he still reached out once a month, about six times after ignoring him. I told him to stop contacting me firmly. Still ignored and kept doing it. I then blocked him via phone, email, and social media. All good. As for the emotional stress of dealing with harassing behavior, I have been working on it with my therapist and finally am in a better place. I don't talk about it with my friends, and they know on a high level I don't like him but I haven't gotten deep into how bad it was.
Now our mutual friend is having a bday party (small, about 15 people), and he is in town visiting his girlfriend (as he does, once a month). He is coming, maybe with his girlfriend. Since realizing that, I don't know if I want to go anymore. Just seeing him increases my stress, and everytime I have to see him I am impacted for a few days afterwards because he inappropriately flirts with me (touching my arm, etc.). I'm not counting on him conducting himself.
I am torn between going and supporting my friend and not making a big deal about it and moving forward -- as well as not letting him have power over me and where I go. But then there is also the temptation to skip it and not deal with that stress. I'm leaning towards the former. I will be polite, but excuse myself if he tries to have a conversation.
Thoughts are always appreciated. Potentially overthinking this, but trying to navigate.