How do I confront my therapist who is also essentially my boss?
March 26, 2014 9:31 PM Subscribe
I live in a mental health treatment center where my therapist is also my "program director". A program director here is basically someone who oversees your treatment and has say over things like when you can and cannot start working or volunteering.
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She can be a moody person and can sometimes be very condescending (i.e. "you pants have holes in them, you're not wearing those tomorrow), treating us like little children who need to be reprimanded like it's catholic school (sometimes when there's nothing to "reprimand"!).
After a few things that happened today, I felt really inspired to finally confront her about this. I'm afraid, however, because she's my therapist and she's been a good one and I feel like I would be "betraying" her if were to call her out/it would ruin our relationship and my stay here.
For reference here are the two main things that triggered me today:
1) She walked into work today already upset because she thought we were supposed to be somewhere already. We'd gotten a call before she got in and informed her that we instructed to stay where we were until further notice. She didn't apologize or say "oh, woops, gotcha" or anything and stubbornly said "well you need blah blah blah so get going" and it was very clear that she just wanted to be upset about something (for the record, we, the patients, are a very, if not too compliant bunch).
2) I have to take my morning meds in front of her. There's a box of meds in the morning. Sometimes my meds are in the box. Sometimes there with her. I looked in the box for the meds this morning. She snips "why are you looking in the box? You take your meds in front of me." All I say is "I was checking to see if the meds were in there." And then retorts like she never heard me "Why would the meds be in there? They're always out here." I ask her why she's getting upset over this technicality? She says "I'm not upset, I just want you to know that the meds are not in the box and that there's no reason for you to look in there".
Should I let it go and enjoy a kind of unhealthy peace or confront her and...I dunno?
If I do talk to her, should I just be straight up and use words like "condescending" and "controlling" or go the "I" statements, route?