Disarming things one can say when giving up a seat on the bus?
March 26, 2014 10:57 AM Subscribe
I regularly run into a semi embarrassing situation when offering my seat to someone on the bus, and I would prefer to give both myself and the stranger in question easier outs.
posted by allkindsoftime to Human Relations (52 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I now have a commute that requires bussing when it's raining and I can't safely motorcycle. I have a great express bus option, but standing is a complete bitch of a time because it is city streets, and even the most conscientious bus driver still feels almost malicious on the frequent hard braking. So, I sit.
Manners and my upbringing and whatever else dictate that I get up and offer my seat when a lady, elder, or disabled person is standing. I'm healthy and frankly could use the standing more than most, but I would prefer for this question just not to get into whether or not my presuppositions in this regard need realignment. The general situation I am looking to avoid is when I stand and embarrass the other person or myself or both when they refuse the seat and I remain standing. I realize not getting up in the first place could resolve this but for the sake of argument please assume that is off the table.
What would be fantastic is ideas and options for things to say or do when getting up from my seat to make it clear to the other person that the seat is theirs if they want it and it's fine if they don't too, but I will stand all the same. And if we could both laugh it off, more the better. Ok, go.